Running head: REFLECTION
This article is about an introvert, their habits and the needs of this group. Rauch (2003)
states that introverts are different from extroverts and brings up many other aspects of being an
introvert in our society. He talks about how people misunderstand these people and how they want
to be understood themselves. Rauch (2003) talks about what it means to be an introvert regarding
careers, socializing, relationships, families, etc. This article is a form of research put together by
Jonathan Rauch. The purpose of this article is to inform people about introverts and how they
should be taken care of. It also provides differences between introverts and extroverts.
Introverts are shy and feel uncomfortable in large groups. They enjoy spending time alone
and prefer to listen rather than speak (Rauch, 2003). Extroverts feel energized by socializing with
others, while introverts get drained when they are around too many people for too long. However,
there’s more to the definition of an introvert than just the act of “showing up. The tone can be
described as informative and factual. The tone is informative because it’s talking about something
instead of just listing facts. The tone is factual because he’s giving much information with evidence
to back up his claims instead of just opinions from other people. In terms of style, the author
employs narrative and descriptive styles. It is the case considering that he narrates about his story
of being an introvert. He then relates this to providing facts and information in relation to the topic
about introverts. he achieves this by asking rhetorical questions and providing explanation after
assuming a certain answer is given. This is a fantastic approach. It makes the writing interesting
and involves the reader. From the article, I have learned that introverts are mostly misunderstood
and need others to understand them more. Secondly, they are not lacking or want in any way need
to rest as they cannot spend time socializing as extroverts can. I have also learned that introverts
can get stressed out easily by talking to people and prefer quiet. It also becomes evident that when
people respect the introverted individuals around them, they get their respect in return as they tend
to be polite and kind.
The author’s claim and writing structure will help me learn about my selected topic on
introverts. It is because his article explores the difficulties some introverts face in day-to-day living
by providing background information on how they think and what they want while at the same
time not losing sight of their positives. The writing structure guides me in knowing how he has
organized his discussion and ideas. In that case, I will know which parts to focus on to identify
details supporting the authorâ€™s claim.
Looking at the claim will influence me into finding important and relevant details such as the four
primary needs, which are:
1 – Time alone.
2 – Deeper relationships.
3 â€“ Privacy.
4 – Deeper work. Rauch also identifies three key traits that indicate a high likelihood of being
introverted and meeting these needs. These are:
A strong need for time to think alone.
A preference for deep rather than shallow relationships.
Deep need to be alone.
Rauch indicates that these traits do not imply any deficiency but instead signify the need
for extra considerations and that those who fit these criteria often find it challenging to meet them.
He regards this as an “introversion problem” and suggests that society is set up to make these kinds
of difficulties more likely and harsher (Rauch, 2003). As a result, this detailed overview of
introverts will allow me new insights into the topic, which will help me understand better the needs
of this group of people and how to approach them going forward.
I believe the author’s writing achieves the intended purpose. The article employs the use of
rhetorical questions, and this is significant in letting the audience or the reader relate to the topic
being discussed. The readers can answer the questions as they read the article. If the answer is
related to the author’s assumption, then they can evaluate themselves to determine if they are
introverts or extroverts. The report explains what makes one an introvert. Rauch’s primary purpose
in writing this piece was to describe how introverts can be more easily recognized and cared for
by their extroverted peers. The report mainly provides essential information for people interested
in understanding how to better care for their introverted loved ones. The article is evidently for
people with little knowledge or understanding about introverts, their characteristics, and how to
take care of them if they are in relationships with introverts (Rauch, 2003). There are quotes from
reliable sources throughout the article as another way of convincing the reader that the information
provided is truthful and trustworthy. The article also provides a better understanding for introverts
to know if they are being taken care of correctly or not. This article also gives helpful tips for
caring for introverts, such as always making sure there are people around during conversation,
giving them space when they need it and making sure there is a comfortable place where they can
talk at their leisure. The article also achieved its purpose in that it helped readers become more
aware of how introverts act in a group setting and their needs.
Rauch, J. (2003). Caring for your introvert. The Atlantic, March.
Caring for your introvert: the habits and needs
of a little-understood group. (Personal File)
Author: Jonathan Rauch
Date: Mar. 2003
From: The Atlantic(Vol. 291, Issue 2)
Publisher: Atlantic Media, Ltd.
Document Type: Article
Length: 1,382 words
Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet conversations about
feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite presentation to a big audience, but seems awkward in
groups and maladroit at small talk? Who has to be dragged to parties and then needs the rest of the
day to recuperate? Who growls or scowls or grunts or winces when accosted with pleasantries by
people who are just trying to be nice?
If so, do you tell this person he is “too serious,” or ask if he is okay? Regard him as aloof, arrogant,
rude? Redouble your efforts to draw him out?
If you answered yes to these questions, chances are that you have an introvert on your hands–and
that you aren’t caring for him properly. Science has learned a good deal in recent years about the
habits and requirements of introverts. It has even learned, by means of brain scans, that introverts
process information differently from other people (I am not making this up). If you are behind the curve
on this important matter, be reassured that you are not alone. Introverts may be common, but they are
also among the most misunderstood and aggrieved groups in America, possibly the world.
I know. My name is Jonathan, and I am an introvert.
Oh, for years I denied it. After all, I have good social skills. I am not morose or misanthropic. Usually. I
am far from shy. I love long conversations that explore intimate thoughts or passionate interests. But
at last I have self-identified and come out to my friends and colleagues. In doing so, I have found
myself liberated from any number of damaging misconceptions and stereotypes. Now I am here to tell
you what you need to know in order to respond sensitively and supportively to your own introverted
family members, friends, and colleagues.
Remember, someone you know, respect, and interact with every day is an introvert, and you are
probably driving this person nuts. It pays to learn the warning signs.
What is introversion? In its modern sense, the concept goes back to the 1920s and the psychologist
Carl Jung. Today it is a mainstay of personality tests, including the widely used Myers-Briggs Type
Indicator. Introverts are not necessarily shy. Shy people are anxious or frightened or self-excoriating in
social settings; introverts generally are not. Introverts are also not misanthropic, though some of us do
go along with Sartre as far as to say “Hell is other people at breakfast.” Rather, introverts are people
who find other people tiring.
Extroverts are energized by people, and wilt or fade when alone. They often seem bored by
themselves, in both senses of the expression. Leave an extrovert alone for two minutes and he will
reach for his cell phone. In contrast, after an hour or two of being socially “on,” we introverts need to
turn off and recharge. My own formula is roughly two hours alone for every hour of socializing. This
isn’t antisocial. It isn’t a sign of depression. It does not call for medication. For introverts, to be alone
with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating. Our motto: “I’m okay, you’re
okay–in small doses.”
How many people are introverts?
I performed exhaustive research on this question, in the form of a quick Google search. The answer:
About 25 percent. Or: Just under half. Or–my favorite–a minority in the regular population but a
majority in the gifted population.”
Are introverts misunderstood?
Wildly. That, it appears, is our lot in life. “It is very difficult for an extrovert to understand an introvert,”
write the education experts Jill D. Burruss and Lisa Kaenzig. (They are also the source of the
quotation in the previous paragraph.) Extroverts are easy for introverts to understand, because
extroverts spend so much of their time working out who they are in voluble, and frequently
inescapable, interaction with other people. They are as inscrutable as puppy dogs. But the street does
not run both ways. Extroverts have little or no grasp of introversion. They assume that company,
especially their own, is always welcome. They cannot imagine why someone would need to be alone;
indeed, they often take umbrage at the suggestion. As often as I have tried to explain the matter to
extroverts, I have never sensed that any of them really understood. They listen for a moment and then
go back to barking and yipping.
Are introverts oppressed? I would have to say so. For one thing, extroverts are overrepresented in
politics, a profession in which only the garrulous are really comfortable. Look at George W. Bush. Look
at Bill Clinton. They seem to come fully to life only around other people. To think of the few introverts
who did rise to the top in politics–Calvin Coolidge, Richard Nixon–is merely to drive home the point.
With the possible exception of Ronald Reagan, whose fabled aloofness and privateness were
probably signs of a deep introverted streak (many actors, I’ve read, are introverts, and many
introverts, when socializing, feel like actors), introverts are not considered “naturals” in politics.
Extroverts therefore dominate public life. This is a pity. If we introverts ran the world, it would no doubt
be a calmer, saner, more peaceful sort of place. As Coolidge is supposed to have said, “Don’t you
know that four fifths of all our troubles in this life would disappear if we would just ask down and keep
still?” (He is also supposed to have said, “If you don’t say anything, you won’t be called on to repeat
it.” The only thing a true introvert dislikes more than talking about himself is repeating himself.)
With their endless appetite for talk and attention, extroverts also dominate social life, so they tend to
set expectations. In our extrovertist society, being outgoing is considered normal and therefore
desirable, a mark of happiness, confidence, leadership. Extroverts are seen as bighearted, vibrant,
warm, empathic. “People person” is a compliment. Introverts are described with words like “guarded,”
“loner,” “reserved,” “taciturn,” “self-contained,” “private”–narrow, ungenerous words, words that
suggest emotional parsimony and smallness of personality. Female introverts, I suspect, must suffer
especially. In certain circles, particularly in the Midwest, a man can still sometimes get away with
being what they used to call a strong and silent type; introverted women, lacking that alternative, are
even more likely than men to be perceived as timid, withdrawn, haughty.
Are introverts arrogant? Hardly. I suppose this common misconception has to do with our being more
intelligent, more reflective, more independent, more level-headed, more refined, and more sensitive
than extroverts. Also, it is probably due to our lack of small talk, a lack that extroverts often mistake for
disdain. We tend to think before talking, whereas extroverts tend to think by talking, which is why their
meetings never last less than six hours. “Introverts,” writes a perceptive fellow named Thomas P.
Crouser, in an online review of a recent book called Why Should Extroverts Make All the Money? (I’m
not making that up, either), “are driven to distraction by the semi-internal dialogue extroverts tend to
conduct. Introverts don’t outwardly complain, instead roll their eyes and silently curse the darkness.”
The worst of it is that extroverts have no idea of the torment they put us through. Sometimes, as we
gasp for air amid the fog of their 98-percent-content-free talk, we wonder if extroverts even bother to
listen to themselves. Still, we endure stoically, because the etiquette books–written, no doubt, by
extroverts–regard declining to banter as rude and gaps in conversation as awkward. We can only
dream that someday, when our condition is more widely understood, when perhaps an Introverts’
Rights movement has blossomed and borne fruit, it will not be impolite to say “I’m an introvert. You are
a wonderful person and I like you. But now please shush.”
How can I let the introvert in my life know that I support him and respect his choice? First, recognize
that it’s not a choice. It’s not a lifestyle. It’s an orientation.
Second, when you see an introvert lost in thought, don’t say “What’s the matter?” or “Are you all
Third, don’t say anything else, Either.
Jonathan Rauch is a correspondent for The Atlantic and a senior writer for National Journal.
Copyright: COPYRIGHT 2003 Atlantic Media, Ltd.
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Rauch, J. (2003, March). Caring for your introvert: the habits and needs of a little-understood group.
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